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Reflection of 2017

Happy new year – ok I’m a little late with this blog, but I started writing it before the end of 2017 and I’d like to say that I have been so busy that I haven’t finished it, but I just didn’t have any umph to complete it unfortunately. Life, flu thing, box sets etc just got in the way… Anyway… 

Lessons learnt in 2017 were: 

Family are everything

I learnt big lessons in 2017 especially as one of my best friends mum died. It hit me that parents and family aren’t around forever and even if my family can be a pain sometimes – I love them to pieces. Plus when the chips are down and you need a cheer up, they were always there even if the day ended in a disaster or an argument! ๐Ÿ˜‚ Cherish your family people – they are a pain because they are like you but I’d like to think they will be there always.

Friends have their own lives

I think I have realised this one more and more as I have got older and friends all ended up married, attached or having children – as a single person you have to like your own company. You also have to get up, get out and have fun. This does not make me happier or make me like the fact my closest bestie is apparently moving to Spain this year. It’s a rediculous idea and she shouldn’t be able to leave the country without my say so. With all this said I look forward to some great adventures with my friends this year. 

Don’t ever let a cat out

This one will haunt me for ages.. My poor little Henry cat who was 2, wandered too far one day in Novemeber and got run over. No one stopped, but thankfully some kind person saw it happen and took him to the vet. For a while he seemed ok but within a few hours he unfortunately just couldn’t survive. I know it sounds sad, but my cat was my little home buddy – he was always there and was a GREAT listener.. Yes yes this is one of my saddest moments of 2017! I won’t be getting another one very soon and maybe a puppy is the way forward. If I get one, it will be coming everywhere with me! 

Be thankful for what you have

I like anyone can be upset about why does so and so have this or why does so and so get married, have the big well paid job, how do I get a 5 bed house? A posh car blah blah blah. Seriously I think we should all look at our life’s sometimes and be thankful for what we have. I might not have children, but I can lie in whenever I want to. I might not get paid more than everyone,but I get paid way more than some people and I can work from home whenever I want or 24/7 if I want to. I might not have a Range Rover, but I get a new car every 3 years and I might not have a 5 bed house, but I own a 2 bed one, in the Home Counties which is pretty amazing and I love it. I am thankful for everything I have, everything I can do and everyone around me. Plus it is ok to be jealous sometimes and then kick yourself and remember what you have isn’t too shoddy.

Love what you do and like who you work with

Last year whilst looking for other jobs (as sometimes you have to see what is out there) I realised that I work in that big office, have a flexible job, my boss was ok and he did try to progress me, my coworkers are nice – some of them I would count as friends and some are annoying obviously, my pay is more than ok and working for a company for 5 years is fine. Plus I have challenged myself and had several roles there, to know what I am talking about. I love the world of marketing, I actually quite like software too, but most of all I love working with my colleagues. I am excited to see how my new responsibility of looking after the DACH region will progress, what fun events and hotels we will visit this year and how I will get better at Social Marketing and get more results. You spend most of your time at work – love what you do or find one you love.. 

Love thy neighbour

My neighbours are 10-15 years younger than me – I know they are pretty much children as I’m only 28! Haha ๐Ÿ˜ Anyway we have a great relationship and have keys to each other’s houses for emergencies, for the cats (obviously that is one sided now) or just for when I can’t remember if I have left a window open or if they need to borrow my hose! When Henry got knocked over, I text my neighbour and she came to the vets with me. She was also going to come to the vet hospital with me and I know she would have helped Henry recover as much as me. She stood with Henry when he died, as I couldn’t and then she brought me a ginger plant to remember him by. So sweet. We both cried way too much for my little Henry but it was so nice that she was there. However my boy neighbour did nearly let himself in once when I had a boy to stay! Thankfully he didn’t come in at the last moment. Haha.. Could have been slightly awks..

Exercise is good for the soul

I have a love hate relationship with the gym like most people. I do feel better after I have been, but in winter it’s especially hard to get up and go. I have moved gyms though and this one seems cool, bigger and less people willing to talk to you. I can’t stand random people talking to me at 6am when I am tired, haven’t had a coffee and am on a cross trainer because I need to lose weight. A polite smile is all that is required and then leave me to my really loud music. The exercise I would recommend to all is: Combat – lots of punching is good for the soul, Jumpfit at your local trampolining park – it is the most fun you are ever going to have doing exercise and you burn like 1000 calories and lastly Pilates or a stretch class – it helps you feel normal and not have any aches and pains. I love a good stretch โ˜บ๏ธ

Don’t feel guilty too much or set high expectations for yourself 

I feel guilty all the time. I’m sure that’s a surprise to most people who know me, but I set major high expectations for myself in work and home life. I feel guilty about being a good friend, daughter, sister, auntie, godmother, colleague – everything. I sometimes think this is why I am single or have been left behind. I have always tried to be the person who is there for others. I’ll be there on someone’s birthday to make sure they aren’t on there own, I will go to every child’s birthday party, I will be some ones wingman to make sure they meet someone etc etc. I thought about this last year and actually decided to be more selfish and less guilty. People won’t love you any less if you can’t make a child’s party or you have plans and they plan their birthday that weekend. Plus others don’t do this for you, so just get on with life and shit happens. Although I think I might still need to work on this one a little more or just educate everyone to be more like me. 

Treat yourself once in a while

This one maybe is a bit odd. I do buy stuff all the time for my house and myself, but I think I need to buy big nice purchases more often if I can afford them. I missed out on a Mulberry handbag on sale because I felt guilty about buying it when I had the money there which I had worked hard for.  I still haven’t brought  one or gone to Bicester to get one on sale, but there is still time and it’s only January. Plus I have plans for the puppy, holidays and that handbag and will do eventually.

Hope everyone is having a good January. I am back on dating sites and promise to make more effort this year. Who knows 2018 could be the year for meeting a boy or could give more fun blog stories. 

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January’s doneย 

Like everyone I had such high hopes for January but at the same time was skint for the first month of the year! Christmas is a killer when the world and his wife has children and you buy for everyone! Every year I say to myself I’m only buying children and every year I feel too guilty to do it – why I’m not sure – it’s not like you get double the presents or anything! Oh well maybe this year.. To be fair half the fun of Christmas is the buying of gifts. 

So in January I started the month with plans of loosing a stone, going to the gym more, going out on loads of dates or at least making way more of an effort and being in a happy place (strong mind etc!)

Well I lost nothing! I ate way healthier than I have forever and I lost bloody nothing! Clearly living on spinach doesn’t work anymore! The fat club me and my friends started didn’t happen – well it did but then they couldn’t be bothered or wouldn’t reply to texts or just basically didn’t get the concept, so there isn’t any point anymore! So that goal failed although someone at TRX I haven’t seen in a while said I lost loads of weight today and to be fair as she said she has nothing to gain by telling me this – so I’m going with something is making me look like I have lost weight! Whoop! 

I so didn’t make the gym more but I went to a trampolining class twice which is amazing – so that will continue! I also tried the 30 day shred and again I haven’t done much of it – but I did do it a bit! I need to get back on it! 30 days of the same circuits type exercise is not that fun but I brought hand weights that are purple!!! ๐Ÿ˜‚

Dates – hmmm I have made an effort to be on all these online websites but I’m not being funny the guys literally are horrendous! Or you message them as you have matched with them and they don’t reply, or they don’t want children or they are just bloody boring! I might be boring too but wow I just can’t be bothered to keep a convo going with someone I don’t know who I’m clearing not clicking with! I have to remember it is just month one of 2017! 

In terms of getting stronger and happier – I think so – these things take time and work is hard right now and family life hasn’t been fun with Friday the 13th striking again! But I’m positive for February! I have plans to be happier in all aspects of my life and if all this fails the new flooring I am meant to get this year won’t happen and I’ll book an adventure somewhere fabulous and then will be happy for sure! Shopping for new flooring was boring anyway!

My final goal for this year is to be sensible with money, get ready for my remortgage at the end of the year and be in the best position I can be in! Another hardship (is that the right word – probably not!) of being single – so much pressure on being an adult and having a mortgage on your own! Yes I am very fortune to own a house in the south east of England and to have been on the property ladder for 10 years, but when it’s just you paying all the bills and you get the massive loan it isn’t the easiest and my journey to buy this house, a few years ago was one Royal nightmare! But hey I won’t put anyone off trying to buy somewhere! It’s still fun when you get in and all the stuff you can do to it! 

In conclusion January was ok, February needs more effort & March is my birthday – so all will be fabulous! 

New Years resolutions, hopes and dreams

It’s the time of year where everyone hopes for the new year and to start all over again! Do we actually think that we can write off the year before, everything at the strike of midnight is going to be so so different and everything that happened in 2016 is suddenly going to be forgotten and everything is now perfect again? Who knows but we all join in on this tradition and make our resolutions & wishe everyone a happy new year! 

For about 3 years i have had my resolutions written in my notes on my phone and they don’t really change, they are: 

  • Be more creative – take more photos, do more art and be more at work
  • Be more proactive than reactive at work
  • Be more spontaneous – stop being organised all the time (I was a little more like this’ll 2016 – only a little bit) 
  • Clean more! (My house isn’t minging – I just feel I need to dust every week but I always choose to go out instead of clean the house) 
  • Use the gym membership (standard resolution) 
  • Accept other people’s ways (I try!)
  • Be more patient (hmmm)
  • Have more parties (I need to do this but I do like other people’s parties more)
  • Eat balanced meals each day including fish (yeah when you are intolerant to lots, have IBS & not really into fish – this is a hard one)
  • Only go out for dinner once a week
  • Work in/develop my blog (totally trying)

It’s a good list I think and I’m totally making headway! Clearly finding a boyfriend, progressing my career and having a baby one day should be on there but that’s way too much pressure! 

My additions to my list this year are:

  • Do what you want, you can’t please everyone, do what you want to do and don’t apologise for being kind! Basically I’m going to be more selfish! It sounds bad but forever I have always gone to every invitation I have been invited to first even if I don’t want to, my friends have always done what they want to do and they all are settled and happy – so I think I need to think more about me and be happier if I do! 
  • Be happy – standard but who doesn’t need reminding
  • Cry Less! – sounds so depressing and I’m totally not but recently I freak out about my parents getting older and life changing and I end up crying and freaking out! Maybe I need to spend less time with them but then if something does happen to them I would have missed out on so much so that’s just stupid
  • New career challenge! This is either move on or take the next step! I’m lucky I have had a new role every fiscal for the last 3 years but I’ve decided I might need more pennies and I might need more development this year! 

So as I deliberate going to the gym next week, whether I feel like crap today or not with a cold and IBS to go out tonight or whether I want to drive or drink and start the year with a hangover – I have lots of goals to work on at least! I wish you all a happy New Years and hope you have a happy and successful year!