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Damn you Mr potential

You know when you click with someone online, you think – yep you tick a box: 

  • You are quite funny,
  • Have good banter, 
  • Live in the area,
  • Know people I know,
  • Grew up like I did,
  • Good values, 
  • Seem like you might be fit,
  • Aren’t a hermit,
  • Might have your own life – hobbies, friends blah blah blah 

Then…. it all goes wrong or quiet.. 

it’s so frustrating when this happens and you haven’t even met the person. So the story goes.. 

I matched with a guy on tinder (standard, no one takes it seriously) You start chatting and asking questions. You realise the person grew up in the same village as you, went to the same schools as you, knows people you do – you chat about life, loves, travel, history etc. And have some chemistry. This goes on for a few days. You then swap numbers because he wanted to mainly. You chat over text a lot that day. Then you send a last text and then silence.

You leave it and think maybe he’s busy, then still nothing. You see somewhere you have spoken about – text to say and nothing. Now at this point I should really know the score and I do, but it’s so irritating. Obviously I do not text him again! Why would I – why would anyone make a fool out of yourself – everyone knows the score – that’s the wonderful world of ghosting and online dating. However… 

Because it really annoys me and because I am a nice person and probably to prove a point and to show I am a nice person I text.. 

Just “Hey – you obviously changed your mind about matching (he unmatched me in the meantime on Twitter) hope you find what you are looking for. Lxx

Hahaha he replied… 

apparently his circumstances have changed somewhat!!! Seriously – he clearly was either talking to someone or was rekindling with someone and keeping his options open. 

Anyway I just replied with “hope everything works out for you”! Why am I so nice – I obviously don’t think this… I think he is a douche and what a waste of a week of messaging! 

Funny he then replied with “sorry I’m not a douche bag hence making the decision” well clearly you are mate – you didn’t have the balls to text me! I didn’t reply. I deleted the texts, deleted his number and will clearly go back on tinder. I’m sure there is a better one out there for my 38th year! 


What does an online profile say?

Obviously everyone goes by the photos to start with and if they look quite nice you open the profile fully and take a read! Every profile set up is slightly different depending on what site you are on! One might give you a compatibility score with a guy, one might let you tell them everything about you in terms of height (obviously most important thing to women), marriage material, just want a f**k buddy, no details, linked to your Facebook or Instagram profiles etc. Etc. But what does the profile say about that elusive potential….

  • So there is the guy who wants a lover but not love = clearly a fancy way of saying they want a f**k buddy and could be married already or perhaps has been hurt in the past and just wants a no commitment thing for now! Commitment issues… 😬
  • Then there is the guy who is seperated! These poor guys could have been seperated for years for all I know but I instantly think; is he on the rebound or is it too early for him to be going out and meeting someone! 
  • The guy who bangs on about looks not being important – sorry but surely that’s crap because the first thing you judge people on online is their photo! So for you to click further you need to go yep or nope to that person! Unless they look at every profile I suppose! Who knows! 
  • The guy who puts no details about their job! What are you trying to hide!? Who cares what you do – I can select that you earn a certain amount if I really want anyway and then you will come up in my search! Yes yes it’s that fickle online!  In a bar you wouldn’t ask someone how much money they earn before talking to them but on online you pretty much can!  Although that goes back to my previous post when I guy was so eager to find out how much I earn’t – who cares! 
  • The guy who says they come from the whole county! Is that not a bit weird! It instantly makes me think you live in a dodgy area and you are ashamed! Silly if you ask me! Plus counties are massive – Hampshire is like an hour drive to get to some places! Plus I live on the Berkshire, Surrey, Hampshire boarder – so giving me a county is redic! 
  • The I’m not telling if I have a child – clearly you have one
  • The I’m not telling if I have a car – clearly you don’t, but you might have a bike! Just say if you don’t have one! Weird not too! 

The only answer I think I get when people are a bit unsure is the kid thing and the marriage thing! No one wants to be too eager and not everyone knows if they want children and if it happens it happens especially as we all get so bloody old – who knows if we can have children or when we will meet someone if we will be really really bloody old and can’t have them by then! And marriage, well again you wouldn’t go up to a potential in a bar and go: “do you ever want to get married” might depend on the person or they just might not see the point! My parents have been married for over 45 years and I’m not sure I can be bothered to get married – what is the need really? A house is a commitment, children are commitment, but I would quite like a Pink diamond engagement ring! Mmmmm! Lol

Anyway it’s bloody difficult this perfect profile thing – maybe we (as in the online dating community) need to be more open minded on lots of profiles and just go with your gut on if that person seems like one you want to meet! To be fair you might start chatting to one and they end up being blah anyway (totally happened last week and he had such potential but bloody hell he asked no questions and didn’t do anything with his life! – bore) Boys can be a bit blah you know! Clearly it’s all them as I’m so funny, beautiful and amazing! Ha 

Anyway back to the boy shopping! Ooooo I just got a message from an Adam…..