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5 things which would be easier if I wasn’t single

Not sure how all you singletons feel all the time about doing everything on your own. I certainly am quite independent and confident but I was thinking yesterday about the following things that would just be easier if there was more than one of you. 

So I believe the following would be easier if you were in a relationship:

  1. Going to events
  2. Sharing bills
  3. Sharing chores
  4. Hang time
  5. Life admin

So let me explain them..

Going to events

I do not mind going to parties and events on my own, however sometimes going to an event where it is full of couples or families and then little old me turns up on my own and looks like billy no mates – isn’t fun. My other bug bare is that you always have to drive and never get the option to drink at one of these do’s, which would clearly make things better sometimes! Haha! Obviously I could be that annoying spare part who could stay over at people’s but that’s just annoying and ruins everyone’s weekends! 

Sharing bills

When you have to be an adult and it is socially unacceptable to live at the rents, you have to either rent or buy a place. I brought my first property at 26 & admittedly my parents were very helpful in the beginning but you know I think they always thought I might meet someone who might eventually share my bills. Instead I had to work hard in my career to pay those pesky bills. I’d like to buy more designer handbags each year though and not have to think – pay back new kitchen or buy something nice for me. Plus paying a mortgage of over £900 a month is a lot for one person. 

Sharing chores

I know there is only one of me but regardless of how many people in a household, you still have to clean the same space and do all the same chores. Having to clean, cut the grass, take the bins out, cook every night (ok I don’t stay in every night but that’s not the point!) dust, Hoover, food shop (so boring when you are gluten free) etc etc.. It would just be nice not too have to work all week and have to do all this sometimes too.

Hang time

I like my own company, I sound really boring but staying in sometimes, cooking dinner and watching tele or a movie is nice. I also like going shopping on my own etc, but sometimes, just sometimes I’d like to hang with someone and not have to call on a friend or make an effort and just have someone at home to chill with. 

Life admin

OMG does anyone like life admin? Seriously I have enough admin at work to do let alone have to work out what remortgage I am going for, whether Henry the cat should have annual injections or cat insurance, book tickets for the cinema, pay bills, work out what home, car, life etc insurance is best. The list goes on! This week I have had to look for the best deal on car tyres and brakes. It’s a chore and yes my dad is taking my car to have these things done, but I still had to price compare garages as he doesn’t see this as a priority and would just go where his mate tells him is good regardless of the price. To me this is surely a boy job & if there was two of you  – this wouldn’t have to be done by me. Although a friend of mine had car issues this week and her husband was away and she had to deal with a bit of the issue, but no doubt her husband will do the rest when he is back. Not jealous at all – I’d have to fix the whole issue! It’s just annoying! Haha

Anyway these are my bug bares and yes I do realise boys who are single have to do everything too, lots of relationships aren’t more simple as one person will do more than the other and gay couples – have to still do boy or girl jobs anyway! What are your bug bares about being single? 


Random dating people 

In the past few weeks I think I have spoken to a lot of randoms! I felt I needed to document them as just to prove to the world I do try and meet guys but every random messages me! 

In no particular order: 

  • The guy who messaged with “Hey You’re a cutie!” I’m not being funny but I’m 37 on Friday! I’m far from being a 5 year old who is a cutie!
  • The same guy went on to make sexual comments and basically telling me we lived so close – he’ll get a bottle of wine and come over! Urmmm I haven’t met you on a date and we just said hello pretty much! He then blocked me! Weird
  • Another guy today asked me how much money I earned! I replied that I wasn’t sure if that was a question you should ask and he replied with “yeah it is – I earn xxx a year!. How much do you earn because I think I don’t earn enough!” So I earn double what he does and clearly I didn’t tell him but diplomatically pointed out it depends on industries etc! How is that an appropriate question to ask? 
  • Then there was the guy who message me at 10.15am Saturday morning with “hey” or something like that! Then at 10.36am he messaged “aren’t you a chatter” Then he blocked me! Seriously I went out for the day and was busy – I didn’t realise my whole aim for Saturday was to message a random back! 
  • Then there is just all the random messages like “You’re astonishingly good looking” (seriously) “Your beautiful, I could fall in love with your face” (Really?) Or “Wow your gorgeous!” I get they want to make a first impression but seriously how is that an opening line – a boring hello, how are you would be better in my book! 

So anyway with the amazing chat up line and guys lined up – my 37th birthday will definitely be one where I am single and happy about it if that’s all that is available! 😂

The wondrous world of POF

Have you ever been on POF or Plenty of Fish as the formal people call it? POF is the place us singletons go to discover the wonder that is online dating! Well there and several other places but POF basically is the OK place that is free! 

Basically you see all the single people you know on there at some point and if like me you have been single for years you have probably seen people come and go you know now are in relationships or you see the people like yourself who have been off and on the thing for forever! 

The thing about being on an online dating portal that everyone goes on, you end up walking around town thinking omg do I know them or I wonder if any of these guys are on POF! I’ve even been out at night in a bar and a guy started talking to me like I was some long lost friend and thinking he knew me until he saw my vague look on my face and realised he didn’t! Later on I saw him on POF and he probably had just seen me so often he thought he knew me from somewhere else! Haha

There is also the nightmare when your single friends are on POF and you are and you end up talking to the guy they might have been on a date with or been talking to before! It’s very awkward and has totally happened to a friend and I! Who knew we had the same taste!

Then there is the stalker guy who messages you without a picture and tells you he has seen you about and has an amazing smile! Brilliant because that makes me feel so much better about going outside the house now you weirdo! 

Then just last night there was the situation of the person you used to know having a profile on POF! He looks at your profile, you look at his – clearly take a screenshot and send it to your mate and say “OMG isn’t he married?” Then he messages you and tells you he is now single and he thought it was me! Haha! 

I’ve never actually ever messaged anyone on any dating site first – maybe I would be more successful if I did. -As a marketer you think I would be good at marketing myself but clearly not! What would I say & an element of me thinks boys should message first but I don’t think that is working with the recent messages I have got from really really unsuitable guys! 

This all sounds very negative about POF and obviously it isn’t that bad for me to go back on there so often and not every guy is that bad – I’ve clearly dated some nice ones too and out of my favourite 6 friends – half have met guys on dating sites and 2 on POF – 2 are now married and have children and 1 is now living with a guy after many years of going through bad dates! So it does work and it is a good place to find a nice one! 

So the adventure continues….

Festive season and New Years reflections

Wow I haven’t blogged for ages but it has been the most wonderful time of year so I have had an excuse I suppose – basically I have been out out a lot! So as I sit here in bed with yet another hangover from the season that depicts you must be jolly, I thought it was time to jot down some thoughts! 

In recent months I’ve been totally whoa is me! Boo to being single and all that, moaning that it’s been the worst year etc but it really hasn’t been! Yes 2016 has had highs and lows, yes some of my friends have had the most terrible time recently and it’s made me so worried about my parents getting old and people not being here anymore but it’s actually been a bloody fun year! I’ve learnt a lot and been fortunate to go on some amazing adventures with some of my favourite people! So whilst looking for 9 photos to reflect my year & all the good bits in it I couldn’t found 9 but at least 18 fun amazing times I had this year. Let me tell you about some of them:

Theatre trips in London: Phantom of the opera (for the hundredth time) Kinky boots, Charlie & the chocolate factory and even horrible histories with my niece – all amazing 

Family days: Cinema trips, visit to the zoo, legoland, shriek adventure, theatre, the races & even bowling! I avoided my neices and nephew for a bit as they were really irritating me recently (they are the most hyper children ever) but this festive season I have seen them nearly everyday and we have had so much fun yet a lot  of “Santa won’t come, I won’t give you a Christmas present and a tad bit of bribery” but it was fun! I do love them very very much! 

Friendsaveries: 25 years of being friends with my besties from school, having a mini reunion with our group from school and being friends with my friend Zara for 10 years – all fun days! I am very very fortunate to have amazing friends even though I moan about them – I know we are stuck with each other and will grow old smoking fags and drinking hard liquor! Haha! 

Travel adventures: family holiday to fueteventura, Budapest for SJ’s hen, loads of fun times in London being a tourist, St Petersburg – Russia with Cindy, Oxford for Hodgies 40th, Copenhagen with my mum and Amsterdam for Zara’s birthday! I had a blast, saw places I had on my bucket list and put more red spots on my big map in my kitchen! Now where to go next year!? I live to travel and I have told everyone I am buying flooring next year for my house and being uber sensible and paying my credit card off! No one believes me and gives me till February before I book a holiday! To be fair I have adventures planned already in Cambridge (birthday), Birmingham (seeing take that – whoop) and Southampton (seeing Robbie Williams – I love him! I need to find a guy just like him) but that isn’t on a plane so doesn’t count! Although I don’t even believe I will make a year without going on an international adventure! Why would you not explore the world? There is so much to see! 

So in reflection yes I’m still single but I dated some nice guys, I had a fun summer season, you don’t need a boy to have fun, adventures or because your friends are coupled up, you just need to make the most out of your life and your situation! I have done so much this year -more than I can remember probably but from going to see the rugby in a box, going to Royal Ascot for the hundreth time or just going for dinner with friends or seeing a movie at the cinema it has all made this year have some amazing memories! 

Next to decide on goals for 2017 & how it can be a fab year, maybe the year I might find love or just decide it’s going to be me and Henry the cat forever! Stay tuned; goals and resolutions post to be posted asap! Have you reflected on your 2016 yet? Are you raring to go for 2017 & like me have you learnt from 2016? It’s good to have a think at this time of the year right? I feel much better when you think about it more literally rather than being melodramatic about the bad times! Happy new year!